Title: I Spent 4 Hours Learning Nothing (Then My 5-Year-Old Fixed It)
Word Count: ~2,100 words
Meta Description: My son asked me one question at bedtime that exposed a decade of wrong learning. Here’s the simple technique that changed everything—and why you were never taught it.
The Question That Broke Me
Week 10. Bedtime routine.
Every night, I ask my son the same question: “What did you learn today?”
He tells me about dinosaurs. Or letters. Or why his friend got in trouble at recess. It’s our thing.
But this night, he flipped it.
“Daddy, what did YOU learn today?”
I’d spent four hours that afternoon watching Midjourney tutorials. Four hours. Seventeen browser tabs. Two pages of notes.
I opened my mouth to answer him.
Nothing came out.
Four hours of “learning.” And I couldn’t explain a single thing to a kindergartener.
That moment embarrassed me. But it also taught me something that a decade of school never did.
Why We Feel Stupid (And It’s Not Our Fault)
Let me paint the picture for you. Because I know I’m not alone in this.
You find a course. Or a tutorial series. Or a book. And you’re excited, right? You’re going to learn this thing.
So you watch. You read. You highlight. You take notes.
And then two weeks later, you need to actually USE what you learned.
Gone. Completely gone.
You’re Googling the same concepts you just “learned.” You’re rewatching the same videos. You’re feeling like there’s something wrong with your brain.
Sound familiar?
Here’s what nobody told us. What we call “studying”—reading, highlighting, watching, taking notes—that’s not learning.
That’s exposure.
That’s letting information pass through your brain like water through a net. In one side, out the other. It feels productive. It looks productive. But nothing’s sticking.
Think about it. In school, we were trained to:
Read the textbook
Highlight the important parts
Copy notes from the board
Then hope we remember it on the test
That’s passive consumption. It’s like watching someone at the gym and expecting to get stronger. Doesn’t work that way.
What My Son Accidentally Taught Me
Now here’s why that bedtime moment was so important.
When he asked “Daddy, what did YOU learn today?”—he was forcing me to RETRIEVE.
Not re-read my notes. Not replay the tutorial. Actually pull the information from my brain.
And it wasn’t there. Because I never put it there in the first place. I just let it pass through.
You know what’s funny? He does this naturally. Five years old, and he already gets it.
When he learns something new at school, what does he do? He comes home and EXPLAINS it to us. In detail. Sometimes for forty-five minutes whether we want to hear it or not.
That’s Active Recall. A five-year-old practices it instinctively. We get it trained OUT of us by the time we’re adults.
And remember Week 9? When he said “I want to be a YouTuber just like you”?
Same kid. Week 9, he copies what I DO. Week 10, he copies what I SAY. And both times, he accidentally teaches me something I desperately needed to learn.
The Cost of Passive Learning
Let me be honest with you about what this was costing me.
Those four hours watching Midjourney tutorials? Gone. That’s four hours I could have spent with my kids. Four hours of bedtime stories I missed. Four hours toward building this dream of Vietnam.
Wasted. Because I was learning wrong.
And I’d been doing this for YEARS. Books I’ve read that I can’t remember. Courses I’ve taken that didn’t stick. Thousands of dollars. Thousands of hours.
All because nobody taught me how learning actually works.
Active Recall: The Simple Fix
So what’s Active Recall?
Here’s the simple version: Instead of RE-READING information, you TEST yourself on it.
Instead of watching a tutorial and taking notes, you watch a section… close the tab… and try to RECALL what you just learned. Out loud. Or in writing. Without looking.
That struggle you feel when you can’t quite remember? THAT’S learning happening. That’s your brain actually building the connections.
If it feels easy, you’re not learning. You’re just recognizing. And recognition is not retention.
The science backs this up. People who test themselves remember 50% more than people who just re-read their notes. Same study time. Totally different results.
Fifty percent more.
Think about what that means. You could learn the same amount in HALF the time. Or learn TWICE as much in the same time. It’s like finding out you’ve been driving with the parking brake on your whole life.
For someone trying to build a business while working full-time IT with two kids… that’s everything.
How I Actually Use It Now
So here’s what changed for me after that bedtime conversation.
Now when I watch a tutorial—let’s say it’s a 10-minute video on Midjourney prompting—I do something different.
Every 2-3 minutes, I pause. I close my eyes. And I try to recall what I just learned. OUT LOUD.
“Okay, he said the structure is… um… subject first, then style, then… what was it…”
That struggle? That’s the magic. That’s when learning happens.
Then I check if I was right. And I move on.
By the end of a 10-minute tutorial, I’ve done 4-5 active recalls. Takes the same amount of time. But I actually REMEMBER it a week later.
How This Connects to Everything
And here’s how this ties into what I showed you in Week 7 and Week 8.
Week 7, I showed you those ten V.A.K.S. prompts for B-roll. How did I actually LEARN that framework? Active Recall. I didn’t just watch tutorials—I tested myself until I could explain V.A.K.S. without looking at my notes.
Week 8, I showed you the 147-video system. The four libraries. Claude managing everything. I told you I type four words: “Generate Week 8 script.”
But I could only BUILD that system because I actually retained what I learned about Claude, about prompting, about workflow automation. Not by watching courses on repeat. By forcing myself to recall and apply, recall and apply.
The system from Week 8 tells me WHAT to make. Active Recall from this week is HOW I learned to build it.
You need both.
The Compound Effect
When you actually RETAIN what you learn, something magical happens. Your knowledge compounds.
Week 7 knowledge connects to Week 8 knowledge. Week 8 connects to Week 9. By Week 10, I’m not starting from zero every time.
I’m building on what came before.
That’s the difference between someone who’s been doing this for 10 weeks and someone who’s done Week 1… ten times.
Most people restart. They forget. They relearn. They forget again.
Remember Week 9? When I talked about the spiral—checking analytics forty-seven times, stuck on three views?
That spiral happens with LEARNING too. Watch tutorial. Forget. Rewatch. Forget. Feel stupid. Give up.
Active Recall breaks that cycle.
The Family Connection
You know what the best part is?
That bedtime question? It’s still our thing.
Every night, I ask him: “What did you learn today?”
And now, every night, he asks me back: “What did YOU learn, Daddy?”
Now I have an answer. Every time.
Last week I explained to him how AI can write scripts. This week I told him how I make pictures with words. He thinks it’s magic. I think it’s active recall.
And honestly? Those conversations have become even better. I’m teaching HIM while reinforcing what I learned. He’s testing ME while practicing his own recall.
Week 9, he stopped me from quitting with “I want to be a YouTuber just like you.”
Week 10, he’s teaching me how to learn—by copying the question I ask him every night.
That’s not just productivity. That’s connection. That’s being present with my kids WHILE building this thing.
Systems over sacrifice, right?
What’s Next: Week 11
Next week is going to be different.
I’m going to share something that almost broke me. A mindset trap I kept falling into. Two months in, eleven subscribers, watching people with millions… wishing I had what they had.
Ever done that? Wished it was easier instead of working to get better?
Week 11, I’m sharing the eight words that changed everything. Jim Rohn said them. And they hit me like a punch.
Week 8 I showed you the system. Week 9 I showed you the heart. Week 10 I showed you how I learn.
Week 11? I show you how I THINK.
That’s the pattern. Systems → Heart → Learning → Mindset. It all connects.
Your Turn
You’ve probably spent hundreds of hours “learning” things you don’t remember. That’s not your fault. You were never taught how to learn.
Now you know.
Try Active Recall TODAY. Watch something. Pause it. Close your eyes. Recall out loud. See how it feels.
And let me know—what’s one thing you’ve “learned” but completely forgot? I want to know I’m not alone in this.
Week 10 of 260. My 5-year-old asked me my own question.
Week 9, he stopped me from quitting. Week 10, he taught me how to learn.
Same kid. Same bedtime. Different lesson.
What question is waiting to change things for you?
LEAD MAGNET CONTENT
Title: The Active Recall Starter Kit: 5 Ways to Actually Remember What You Learn
Format: PDF Checklist + Quick Start Guide
What You’ll Get:
1. The 5-Minute Active Recall Test Before your next tutorial, try this simple test to see how much you’re actually retaining vs. just recognizing.
2. The Pause-Recall Method (Step-by-Step) The exact technique I use: Every 2-3 minutes, pause, close, and recall out loud. Detailed walkthrough included.
3. The “Bedtime Question” Framework Turn any learning session into a retention session by asking yourself: “Could I explain this to a 5-year-old?”
4. Active Recall for Busy Parents How to use commute time, waiting rooms, and those 5 minutes before the kids wake up for recall practice.
5. The Compound Learning Tracker Simple one-page tracker to see how your learning connects week to week—just like my Week 7 → Week 8 → Week 10 progression.
Bonus: The “Feel Stupid” Reframe That struggle when you can’t remember something? It’s not failure. It’s the feeling of learning actually happening. Here’s how to embrace it.
FACEBOOK ANNOUNCEMENT
My 5-year-old broke me this week.
Not on purpose. But completely.
Every night at bedtime, I ask him the same question: “What did you learn today?”
He tells me about dinosaurs. Letters. Why his friend got in trouble.
But Week 10, he flipped it on me.
“Daddy, what did YOU learn today?”
I’d just spent 4 hours watching Midjourney tutorials. 17 browser tabs. 2 pages of notes.
And I couldn’t tell him a single thing.
Nothing. Zero. Four hours gone.
That’s when I realized something uncomfortable: I’ve been “learning” wrong my entire life. Decades of reading, highlighting, note-taking… and barely remembering any of it.
Turns out there’s a simple fix. It’s called Active Recall. People who use it remember 50% more than people who just re-read their notes.
Same time investment. Totally different results.
And here’s the kicker: My 5-year-old already does it naturally. When he learns something at school, he comes home and explains it to us. For 45 minutes. Whether we want to hear it or not.
That’s Active Recall. Kids do it instinctively. We get it trained out of us.
Week 9, he stopped me from quitting with “I want to be a YouTuber just like you.”
Week 10, he taught me how to learn—by asking me my own question.
Same kid. Same bedtime. Different lesson.
New video shows you exactly how I use Active Recall now, and how it connects to everything I’ve built in the last 10 weeks.
Link in comments 👇
What’s one thing YOU’VE “learned” but completely forgot? I know I’m not alone in this.
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AFFILIATE INTEGRATION (Future Implementation)
Potential Affiliate Opportunities for Week 10 Content:
Learning & Productivity Tools
Notion – For building Active Recall systems and tracking learning
Anki – Spaced repetition flashcard software (complements Active Recall)
Readwise – For retaining what you read (highlight recall)
Online Learning Platforms
Skillshare – Tutorial platform (with Active Recall application)
Udemy – Course platform (demonstrate AR technique with courses)
Productivity Books
“Make It Stick” by Brown, Roediger, McDaniel – The science behind Active Recall
“A Mind for Numbers” by Barbara Oakley – Learning techniques
Note: Will activate affiliate partnerships after reaching 1,000 subscribers. Current focus on building authority and trust through transparent, honest content.
Week 10 Affiliate Strategy: None yet (authority building phase)
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