Introduction
You’re scrolling at midnight. You see someone with 10x your results. And suddenly your own progress feels worthless.
Sound familiar?
This is the comparison trap. It kills more creators, entrepreneurs, and side-hustlers than bad strategy ever will. Not because the feelings aren’t real—they are. But because those feelings lead to the wrong questions.
This guide gives you 5 questions to ask yourself when you start spiraling into comparison. Print it. Keep it by your desk. Use it every time you feel that familiar pull toward “why not me?”
Question 1: “Am I comparing my Chapter 2 to their Chapter 20?”
The Trap: Seeing someone’s current success without seeing their journey.
The Escape: Before you spiral, ask: “How long have they been doing this?”
Most overnight successes are actually 3-10 year journeys. That creator with 2 million subscribers? They probably started when you were still figuring out what you wanted to do.
Action Step: Find their earliest content. See where they started. You’re comparing your beginning to their middle.
Question 2: “What can I LEARN from this, not WISH for?”
The Trap: Wishing you had their results instead of studying their process.
The Escape: Change the question from “Why don’t I have that?” to “How did they build that?”
Every successful creator leaves clues. Their content structure. Their posting consistency. Their audience interaction patterns. Study the process, not just the outcome.
Action Step: Pick ONE thing they do well. Write down exactly what it is. Try it in your next piece of content.
Question 3: “What am I avoiding by scrolling?”
The Trap: Using comparison as procrastination in disguise.
The Escape: Recognize that scrolling through successful people is often avoiding your own work.
That 45 minutes you spent watching content about content? It could have been spent making your own content. Comparison is productive procrastination—it feels like learning but produces nothing.
Action Step: Set a timer. When it goes off, close the app. Return to your own work.
Question 4: “What’s ONE thing I can get BETTER at this week?”
The Trap: Trying to improve everything at once, getting overwhelmed, improving nothing.
The Escape: Pick ONE skill. Focus on that for one week. Then pick the next.
The Better Log approach: Write down one thing you’re working to get better at—not easier. Patience. Consistency. Hooks. Thumbnails. One thing per week compounds into real skill over time.
Action Step: Start your own Better Log. This week, what ONE thing are you getting better at?
Question 5: “What would I tell a friend who felt this way?”
The Trap: Being harder on yourself than you’d ever be on someone you care about.
The Escape: Imagine a friend came to you with this exact feeling. What would you say to them?
You probably wouldn’t say “Yeah, you’re right, you should quit.” You’d remind them of their progress. Their unique situation. The value of persistence.
Action Step: Write yourself that message. Read it when comparison hits hardest.
The 9-Word Reminder
Print this. Put it where you work.
“Don’t wish it was easier. Wish you were better.”
Every time you feel the comparison pull, read those words. Then ask: “What can I get better at today?”
That’s the escape. Not avoiding comparison (impossible). Not pretending it doesn’t hurt (dishonest). But redirecting the energy from wishing to working.
Quick Reference Card
When comparison hits, ask:
Chapter 2 vs Chapter 20?
What can I learn?
What am I avoiding?
What’s ONE thing to improve?
What would I tell a friend?
Then remember: Don’t wish it was easier. Wish you were better.
From Steve at 5K5YearsAnywhere – Week 11 of 260
FACEBOOK ANNOUNCEMENT
I almost quit two weeks ago.
Not because the system wasn’t working. Not because I ran out of ideas.
Because I made the mistake of scrolling YouTube at 11 PM instead of sleeping.
I found a creator with 2.1 million subscribers. Watched him explain his content strategy. And by the time I closed the video, I wanted to delete everything I’d built.
Here’s the thought that almost broke me:
“He makes it look so easy. Why is this so hard for me?”
I was comparing my 2 months to his 6 years. My Week 11 to his Week 312. My eleven subscribers to his 2.1 million.
That’s when 9 words I’d heard years ago finally hit.
“Don’t wish it was easier. Wish you were better.”
Nine words. And suddenly I felt like an idiot.
I wasn’t wishing I was better at content. Better at patience. Better at showing up when it’s hard.
I was wishing the GAME was easier instead of wishing I was a better PLAYER.
Three things changed that night:
1️⃣ I unfollowed every creator who makes me wish instead of learn 2️⃣ I changed my question from “why isn’t this working?” to “what can I get better at?” 3️⃣ I started a “Better Log” – one thing I’m improving each week (this week: patience)
The comparison trap will never go away. I scrolled past a success story yesterday and felt that pull again.
But now when I see someone further along, I ask: “What can I learn from them?”
Not “why don’t I have what they have.”
That’s the difference between spiraling and growing.
Week 11 of 260. Nine words that hit like a punch.
What are you getting better at this week?
👇 Drop it in the comments. One thing. Let’s keep each other accountable.
New video breaking down the full comparison trap (and the 3 things I changed): [link]
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AFFILIATE INTEGRATION (Future Implementation)
Potential Affiliate Opportunities for Week 11 Content:
Mindset/Personal Development
Jim Rohn audiobooks/courses – Original source of “Don’t wish it was easier” philosophy
Audible subscription – For personal development content consumption
Journaling apps (Day One, Journey) – For Better Log implementation
Productivity/Focus Tools
Freedom app – For blocking comparison-triggering social media
Cold Turkey – Alternative distraction blocker
Forest app – Gamified focus timer
Content Creator Tools
VidIQ – Analytics without constant comparison (focus on YOUR growth)
Notion – For Better Log template and content organization
Note: Will activate affiliate partnerships after reaching 1K subscribers. Current focus on building authority and trust through transparent, honest content about the comparison struggle.
Week 11 Affiliate Strategy: None yet – pure value delivery
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